Thursday, September 27, 2007

More Philosophizing

I am not a philosopher and I know you're not paying good money to read this blog in order to read my two bit philosophy, but, for free, I will make one follow up comment to my previous post about things changing and then I'll get on to other things. It may seem despairing to realize, as I said in my previous post, that things always change and for the fortunate, that is our curse. It doesn't have to cause one to despair to realize that everything changes. It just reemphasizes the basic point that we have to live in the moment. Be happy now. I really do believe, as much as I believe anything, that to be happy or unhappy is a choice we make, not something that happens to us based on circumstances. I grew up with a religion that emphasized the importance of being unhappy now, so that we would eventually go to heaven where we would be happy forever. I believe that is a delusion that has caused great damage to many people.

Before I went to school, I thought I would be happy when I got to grade school, when I was in grade school, I thought I would be happy when I got to high school, when I was in high school, I envied college students, when I was in college, I couldn't wait to get out of college, when I was out of college, I thought getting married would make me happy, when I was married, I thought having children would make me happy, when I had children, I thought I would be happy when they grew up. Now that the kids are gone, I look back and think how happy I was when they were little. We always think that some other time is the time of our happiness, either in the future or in the past.

So, to add to my great pronouncement of last time that things always change, just let me add: Live in the moment; be happy now.

5 comments:

rdl said...

Philosophize all you want - another great post. except the only think that i would beg to differ on is that it is a choice: i think some unfortunates don't have a choice and for some with the gene/affliction of mental illnes(depression, bipolar)that too is not a choice. other than that I agree with you wholeheartedly ( on a good day). :D

Debra Hope said...

As my husband, The Great Philosopher, says: "Every day above ground is a good day!"

Lauren said...

Amen, Brother Crockhead!

easy said...

Hi Amishlaw, trying to leave a comment and it's stressing my eighth grade ability.

easy said...

Whew!! Miracles abound. Anyway I'm ex-Amish and I enjoy your blog, a lot. I aspire to do some writing, but I'm (how to put it?) a diamond in the rough. Ha! I saw references on your site that you might do some fiction with Amish themes. How exiting! There is a void of literary contribution by those of us who know and respect the Amish on a human level. Please, pretty please with a cherry on top write more on the Amish and how they fit or don't fit into western culture.